2006年11月03日

美国人的教育是以赞扬为主,激励为主的教育。于是美国人自己总结了鼓励孩子向上的101句鼓励的话。某校校长出访美国马里兰州,正好碰上该州新教师培训,人手一本小册子,是老师在批改学生作业和课堂教学中必须使用的鼓励用语。现奉献给英语教师同行们,这对我们转变教育观念是很有启迪的。现翻译如下,如有不准确之处,请指正。
101 ways to encourage a Child

1. Wow 哇!(叫绝声)

2. Way To Go 就该这么做

3. Super 极好的

4. You’re Special 你不一般

5. Outstanding 杰出的

6. Excellent 优秀的

7. Great 伟大的

8. Good 好的

9. Neat 真整洁

10. Well Done 做得好

11. Remarkable 非凡的

12. I Knew You Could Do It 我知道你能做的

13. I’m Proud Of You 我为你而骄傲

14. Fantastic 太奇妙了

15. Super Star 超级明星

16. Nice Work 干得好

17. Looking Good 看上去不错

18. You’re On Top Of It 你是数一数二的

19. Beautiful 美极了

20. Now You’re Flying 现在你起飞了(进步了)

21. You’re Catching On 你是有吸引力的

22. Now You’ve Got It 现在你做到了

23. You’re Incredible 你简直难以置信

24. You Can Do It 你能做到

25. How Did You Do That? 你怎样完成的?

26. Bravo 好啊!妙!

27. You’re Fantastic 你真太妙了

28. You’re Improving 你在进步

29. Hurray For You 为你喊万岁

30. You’re On Target 你达到目标了
You’re On Your Way 你在前进中

32. How Nice 多好啊

33. Good Job 干的出色

34. That’s Incredible 简直难以置信

35. Hot Dog 热狗

36. Let’s Try Again 再试试

37. Dynamite 非同凡响

38. You’re Beautiful 你太美了

39. You’re Unique 你太不寻常了

40. Nothing Can Stop You Now 现在你已所向无敌了

41. Good For You 为你好

42. I Like You 我喜欢你

43. You’re A Winner 你是赢家

44. I Respect You 我尊敬你

45. You’ll Make It 你一定会成功的

46. Remarkable Job 出色的工作

47. Beautiful Work 完美的工作

48. Spectacular 壮观的,引人入胜的

49. I Like The Way You Handled That 我欣赏你的做法

50. You’re Precious 你是宝贵的

51. Great Discovery 伟大的发现

52. You’ve Discovered The Secret 你已经发现了秘密

53. You’re Making Progress 你正在进步

54. You Figured It Out 你搞懂了

55. Fantastic Job 干的太好了

56. Hip, Hip Hurray 万岁!(喝彩声)

57. Bingo 你成功了

58. I Believe You’ll Handle It 我确信你能行

59. Magnificent 杰出的

60. Marvelous 非凡的
Terrific 太妙了

62. You Really Tried 你确实尽力了

63. Thanks For Helping 感谢你的帮助

64. Super Job 出色完成任务

65. Creative Job 创造性的完成任务

66. Super Work 超级完成任务

67. You’re Sensational 你真令人感动

68. I Like Your Work 我欣赏你的工作

69. I Can See Progress 我已经看到了进步

70. Exceptional Performance 非同一般的表现

71. You’re A Real Trooper 你真实一个好骑手

72. You Are Responsible 你是负责任的

73. You Are Exciting 你真令人激动

74. You Learned It Right 你做对了

75. Look How Far You’ve Come 瞧,你已经有多领先了

76. What An Imagination 多么丰富的想象力!

77. What A Good Listener 多么专注的听众啊!

78. You Are Fun 你真有趣

79. You’re Growing Up 你长大了

80. You Tried Hard 你尽力了

81. You Care 你很认真

82. Outstanding Performance 出色的表现

83. You’re A Good Friend 你是一个好朋友

84. I Have Confidence In Your Judgment 我坚信你的判断

85. I Trust You 我相信你

86. You’re Important 你非常重要

87. You Belong 你属于我们

88. You’ve Got A Friend 你已经得到了一个朋友

89. You Make Me Laugh 你让我开怀大笑

90. You Brighten My Day 你让我今天增辉不少

91. I Respect You 我崇敬你

92. That’s Correct 正确

93. You’re A Joy 你真让人高兴

94. You’re A Treasure 你是个宝

95. You’re Wonderful 你真妙极了

96. Awesome 真了不起

97. You Made My Day 你今天真让我高兴

98. That’s The Best 真出色

99. A Big Hug 热情拥抱你

100. A Big Kiss 亲吻你

101. Say I Love You! 我要说,我爱你!

    中国家庭并不常用电话答录机(Answering Machine),但在北美家庭,几乎家家都用。外来电话拨入时,若该电话号码的主人不在,就会让拨入者听到一段留言,这叫Answer。绝大多数的Answer都是千篇一律的:说明主人不在,请拨入者留下简短信息及姓名电话号码等。
    以下几则特别的 Answer 体现了美国佬的幽默,你能体会出其幽默所在吗?

    My wife and I can‘t come to the phone right now, but if you‘ll leave your name and number, we‘ll get back to you as soon as we‘re finished.

    Hi. This is John. If you are the phone company, I already sent the money. If you are my parents, please send money. If you are my financial aid institution, you didn‘t lend me enough money. If you are my friends, you owe me money. If you are a female, don‘t worry, I have plenty of money.

    Hi, I‘m not home right now but my answering machine is, so you can talk to it instead. Wait for the beep.

    Hi! John‘s answering machine is broken. This is his refrigerator. Please speak very slowly, and I‘ll stick your message to myself with one of these magnets.*(见注)

    Hello, this is Sally‘s microwave. Her answering machine just eloped with her tape deck, so I‘m stuck with taking her calls. Say, if you want anything cooked while you leave your message, just hold it up to the phone.

    Hello, you are talking to a machine. I am capable of receiving messages. My owners do not need siding, windows, or a hot tub, and their carpets are clean. They give to charity through their office and do not need their picture taken. If you‘re still with me, leave your name and number and they will get back to you.

    Hi. I am probably home. I‘m just avoiding someone I don‘t like. Leave me a message, and if I don‘t call back, it‘s you.

    This is not an answering machine — this is a telepathic thought- recording device. After the tone, think about your name, your reason for calling and a number where I can reach you, and I‘ll think about returning your call.

    Hi, this is George. I‘m sorry I can‘t answer the phone right now. Leave a message, and then wait by your phone until I call you back.

    If you are a burglar, then we‘re probably at home cleaning our weapons right now and can‘t come to the phone. Otherwise, we probably aren‘t home and it‘s safe to leave us a message.

    You‘re growing tired. Your eyelids are getting heavy. You feel very sleepy now. You are gradually losing your willpower and your ability to resist suggestions. When you hear the tone you will feel helplessly compelled to leave your name, number, and a message.

    Please leave a message. However, you have the right to remain silent. Everything you say will be recorded and will be used by us.

    Hello, you‘ve reached Jim and Sonya. We can‘t pick up the phone right now, because we‘re doing something we really enjoy. Sonya likes doing it up and down, and I like doing it left to right … real slowly. So leave a message, and when we‘re done brushing our teeth, we‘ll get back to you.

    注释:

    beep:主人的Answer讲完以后,Answer Machine会发出一声beep, 这时候来电话者就可以开始留言了。 
    magnet:磁铁

    *注:通常情况下,来电话者面对录音讲话都不太自然,所以语言往往很急促,三句两句话就完了。这可苦坏了接听留言的主人,听多少遍都听不清留言者到底是谁,讲了些什么。对于母语非英文的人,这种感觉会更深。所以,以下这两段幽默干脆就首先告诉电话拨入者,我的Answer Machine不好使,你且慢慢来。

    elope:私奔 
    tub:浴盆 
    charity :慈善团体
    telepathic:心灵感应术 
    tone:与昨天对 beep 的注释含义完全一样,主人的Answer讲完以后,Answer Machine会发出一声beep, 这时候来电话者就可以开始留言了。 
    burglar:夜贼 
    eyelids:眼皮 
    willpower :毅力 
    feel helplessly compelled to:感到无助而被迫做某事 
    you have the right to remain silent:电影电视里警察出示逮捕令时常讲的一句话。西方社会讲究人权,任何疑犯在未审判之前不得认为有罪,因而不能逼供、更不可拷打:他们有权保持沉默。

2006年06月22日

1———You can’t argue with success

Though you may tell someone they are doing something in a wrong way,

you have to stop criticizing them if their method works.

2——–Nothing succeeds like success

Like money in a savings account, success seems to compound itself. A person who

has a small success expects it to be followed by a bigger one.

3——–The end justifies the means

It does not matter how you succeed. Any method is all right if it works for you. This proverb is not always

accepted. Often one hears the opposite, " the end doesn’t justifies the means."

4——–If you can’t beat them, join them

If you cannot compete successfully with a person or a group,

stop competing and go join them. Then you can share in their success.

5——–Always a day late and a dollar short

A criticism of a person who never succeeds. The failures may not be drastic but the

pattern of small failures is annoying to others, especially in two areas that Americans

value as highly as time and money.

6——–One thing at a time

Concentration leads to success. The person who tires to do too many things at once may fail at all of them.

7——–We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it

We will not discuss or worry about a future problem. If and when the problem becomes urgent,

we will deal with it.

8——–Don’t put the cart before the hourse

Do things in a sensible order. For example, do something to impress your boss before you ask for

a raise in pay. Don’t ask for the raise first.

9——–All’s fair in love and war

Do not trust a rival or an enemy at all. His or her desire to succeed will overrule everything else.

Such a people may lie, cheat, attack or do many other things far more terrible than he or she would

normally do.

10——–When in Rome do as the romans do

Flexibility leads to success in unfamiliar circumstances. People may changes their normal way of doing

things in order to fit in better with those they are visiting.

11——-Easy does it

Some things require gentleness for success. One should not push too hard. Force may cause damage

12——–The bigger they are, the harder they fall

Do not be discouraged by the size of your problem or the fame of your competitor.

(the saying is traced to a boxer preparing to fight an opponent much larger than he was.)

13——–All is well that ends well

If we can come to a successful conclusion, let us forget about the pain and mistakes along

the way.

14——–Go for it

Go ahead and try to achieve your goal. Don’t worry about failing. Similar to this proverb–God

provides food to every bird, but he won’t cast to its nest, you got to earn it.

15——–Every little bit helps

If someone apologizes for giving only a small gift, the recipient may encourage the giver by

quoting this proverb. This is especially true if there is a huge job to do or a huge amount of

money to be raised from many people.

16——–Look before you leap

Don’t jump into a situation carelessly. You may land in difficulty

17——–All that glitters is not gold

Do not be fooled by worthless things that seem valuable or look attractive.

"Fool’s gold " is the popular name for a kind of stone that glitters like gold but contains no gold at all.

18——-Curiosity killed the cat

Do not ask too many questions or become too curious about things. You may get yourself into

trouble like a cat that does not see the danger in a new situation

19——–Don’t put all your eggs in one basket

Do not risk everything in one place or on one project. Divide your sources that one failure

will not ruin you. Similar to this proverb—Do not use both feet to test the depth of the river

20——–Don’t bite off more than you can chew

Do not attempt something too large for you to handle.

21——–Too good to be ture

This is often used to warn about advertising. An offer looks good but turns out to be misleading

22——–Flattery will get you nowhere

If flattery (insincere praise) is recognized, it will not succeed. One sometimes hears the opposite,

Flattery will get you everywhere


23——–There is no such thing as a free lunch

If someone you do not know offers you a free lunch or other gift, watch out. The gift may be a

method of getting something from you

24——-Pride goes before a fall

Do not be over-confident and careless. Your circumstances may change quickly and

the emptiness of your bragging will be exposed

25——-Better safe than sorry

It is better not to take a risk than to take a risk foolishly

26——–Winning isn’t everything

One may enjoy the process of playing a game whether one wins or not. This traditional proverb is now

often heard in the opposite form, Winning isn’t everything. It’s the only thing!

27——-Time will tell

Wait and see how something will work out. Don’t trust a person or thing too much right now.

28——–The burned child shuns fire

Some of life’s lessons are learned the hard way. The person who has had to pay for a

mistake will be careful not to make that mistake again.

29——–There are other fish in the sea

There are opportunities! For example, this is may be used to encourage someone who has

just broken off a relationship with a sweetheart.

30——–Don’t count your chickens before they are hatched

Do not become too confident of success before you can see that progress

is happening.

31——–Rome wasn’t built in a day

Do not be discouraged if your goal still seems far away. On a big project,

success takes time!

32——–There is more here than meets the eye

Be careful. People are hiding something in order to protect themselves or

take advantage of you.

33——–The customer is always right

Businesses instruct their clerks not to do anything that might threaten a customer’s

self-esteem, no matter how unreasonable the customer is. Any complaint of any

customer must be carefully and politely heard by any employee. The customer must

not be made to feel ignorant.

34——–Be true to yourself

Do not compromise yourself or your beliefs in order to please other people or fit in

with a system. Know who you are. Let other people know what you stand for. Do not give

in to pressure to conform or to do things you do not agree with.

35——–Once bitten, twice shy

This may be used to explain the behavior of a person who is overly cautious about something.

The wise person makes mistakes but does not usually make the same mistake twice

36——–It isn’t over till the fat lady sings

I refuse to admit defeat yet. Though right now it looks like I may fall, there is still time for

things to change. (The "fat lady" is an insulting reference to an opera soloist, opera often

end with a female solo.)

37——–To each his own

Each individual should be allowed to have his or her own preferences. people will naturally

choose different activities, goals, life-s, etc.

38——–Looking out for number one

Looking out for one’s own personal welfare more than anything else. This is sometimes used

to criticize a person who has abused or taken advantage of someone else, "All he was doing was

looking out for number one." Or it may be used to defend himself or herself, "There is nothing

wrong with what I did. I was just looking out for number one."

39——–When the going gets tough, the tough get going

When situation is difficult , only the determined people can handle it. They don’t give up!

40——–Times flies when you are having fun

A day seems shot when it is full of enjoyable things but it seems like an eternity if one is

idle or stuck with a boring job.

41——–If it feels good, do it

Live according to your desires at the moment. Forget about rules, regulations or consequences.

Just have fun.

42——–Live and let live

Do not be judgmental. Do not try to control or punish other people.

You live as you like and let others live as they like.

43——–Variety is the spice of life

Variety is what makes life pleasureable. Boredom is seen as a threat and monotony is the surest route to boredom.

44——-Money talks

Wealth has influence. People who make big contributions to political candidates are "talking" to the candidates and expecting them to listen.

45——–All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy

This is used to criticize someone who takes work too seriously. It affirms that play is

as an essential part of human life.

46——–The more the merrier

This is a way of welcoming someone to participate. It means, the bigger the group. the

bigger the party.

47——-A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush

A thing you already have is worth twice as much as a thing you might get in the future.

48———You can’t have your cake and eat it too

Make up your mind. Sometimes one must choose between two very desirable things,

giving up one thing in order to enjoy the other.

49———There is more than one way to skin a cat

Any of several methods may bring about the desired result. Each person may choose the method that best suits her. If one method does not work, choose a different one and try again.

50——–One man’s meat is another man’s poison

Since the same thing may affect different people in different ways, each person must choose the things that will work in his or her particular case.

51———Love finds a way

Love is considered one of the most powerful and determined forces in the world.

Two people in love will "find a way" to get together.

52——–Absence makes the heart grow fonder

When lovers are separated, they may think about each other constantly. their love may deepen.


53———Out of sight, out of mind


This is said of someone not considered important or worthy of loyalty. One forgets about that person as soon as he or she is out of sight.


54——-Love makes the world go around


Love is the driving force in all of life. Love makes life worth living. If you understand love,you understand everything about life.


55——–Marry in haste and repent at leisure


Do not rush into any long-term commitment. In the past this meant, "take your time before


you commit yourself to a marriage partner." Now it means, "Do not commit yourself to anyoneyou will be sorry." or it may mean, "Live with a person for a while before marrying him or her."It may also apply to any long-term partnership, such as a joint business venture


56——-Talk is cheap


Talking is not doing, It is easy to talk about a plan, but this gets little respect untill one takes


a risk and puts the plan into action.


57——–Love is blind


When people are in love, they do not see each other’s faults


58———Time is money


Time can be converted to money, that is, wages are often paid per hour of work. Managers want


employees to do things quickly because "time is money." If employees waste time, the company


loses money.


59———If you’re so smart, why ain’t you rich


This question implies that intelligence, like time, can be converted into money. It is used to cut


down an ordinary person(not a rich one) who has expressed an opinion as if it is the final word


on the subject.


60——–Beggars can’t be choosers


Beggars have to accept whatever they get. A poor person has very few choices in life.


This harsh reply may be used if people complain about the size or quality of a gift.


61——–The love of money is the root of all evil


Greed will lead a person into many other evils such as cheating, oppression and violence.


(one also hears, money is the root of all evil, which places the blame more on money than on greed.)


62———A fool and his money are soon parted


Folly will always show up in the way a fool handles money. Wise people are the ones smart


enough to guard money once they have it.


63——–It isn’t whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game


Playing well and fairly is more important than succeeding. This saying is sometimes used to console


someone who has lost a game. The ideas is that in spite of losing, one may still feel like a success if


one has played as well as possible.


64——–Money can’t buy happiness


There are some things money just can’t buy. This reminds people that money is not an ultimate value


although it often is treated as one. The saying may be used as a comment when a wealthy but lonely and


wretched person commits suicide.


65——–Nice guys finish last


Success is valued more highly than kindness and politeness. If unkindness and impooliteness


contribute to one’s success, they are sometimes excused as "toughness" or "what it takes."


This is more often applied to men than woman.


66——–The one who dies with the most toys wins


This recent, cynical saying makes fun of three common American desires–


competing, accumulating property, and having fun.


67——–Just do it


This proverb is actually a recently invented advertising slogan for the Nike Shoe company.


It may also be the best three-word summary of American cultural values. It means, "quit being


indecisive, Don’t bother consulting a lot of people. Don’t waste much times on planning. Just do it


and do it now.


68———You only go around once in life


Enjoy life, do what you want to do, experience everything you can.


69——–Put your money where your mouth is


Get serious about what you are saying. When you have spoken in favor of something,


prove that you mean it by risking some money on it in a bet or an investment


70———The best defense is a good offense


Be pro-active and goal-oriented, not timid or conservative.


Aim to conquer, not merely to protect yourself.


71——–The road to hell is paved with good intentions


Like talking, intending is not doing. Actions matter far more than intentions.


Actions determine where a person ends up.


72———Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today


Doing is better than waiting. If you wait, you might lose your opportunity


73——–Action speak louder than words


To know people’s hearts, pay more attention to what they do than what


they say.


74———Idle hands are the devil’s workshop


When people have nothing constructive to do, they get into mischief. The child who is bored


may pick up a crayon and color on the wall, something that would not happen if the child were


happily occupied in some other activity.


75——–You’ve got to take the bull by the horns


Grab directly and fearlessly for the toughnest part of a problem.


Don’t look for an easy way out.


76——–Money doesn’t grow on trees


You have to work for things. Success does not come on its own.


77———Easy come, easy go


If you have received something without working for it, it may soon be gone.


You will not be as careful with it as you will be with something you earned.


78———Too many cooks spoil the broth


Individual action or action by the smallest group possible is better than consulting


a lot of people. Too much consultation will waste time and create problems.


79———Stand on your own two feet


Grow up; act like an adult. Don’t ask me to do something for you. This may be said to a


young or immature person who depends too much on others. It is like a cow kicking a grown


calf that wants to suckle.


80——-If you want something done right, do it yourself


This discourages people from trusting anyone except themselves.


It maybe said to someone who ask another person to do a job for


him/her and then complains about it was done.


81——-Necessity is the mother of invention


When a person really needs something, he or she figures out some new way to get it. This creative initiative to change one’s situation is considered much better than giving up and accepting things as they are.


First come, first served


This saying is used when there is a limited supply of something such as tickets to an


event or food at a picnic. The idea is that no matter what your status, if you want some


of what is being given away or sold, you must present yourself in person and in good time.


83———No pain no gain


one must put forth an effort in order to succeed.


This saying comes from physical fitness instructors. They say that if you do not exercise


hard enough to make your muscles hurt, the exercise is not doing you much good.


84——–Give him an inch and he’ll take a mile


Be careful of presumptuous people who take more initiative than they should.


If you do someone a small favor or delegate a little permission or a little power,


he or she may take advantage of you.


85——–If it isn’t broke, don’t fix it


Do not bother trying to improve something if it is already working satisfactorily.


That is a waste of time and you run the risk of breaking the thing while you are trying


to improve it.


86——–There is no harm in trying


A person expects to be respected for making an effort even if it does not succeed.


87——–The cure is worse than the disease


While trying to solve one problem, we create an even bigger problem.


We would have been better off if we had done nothing.


88——–Count to ten before you lose your temper


Do not instantly let your feelings control your actions. Slow down.


Think before you react.


89———All things come to him who waits


Sometimes patience is better than initiative.


90———There is many a slip between the cup and the lip


This refers to a plan that has gone wrong. When one is drinking from a cup,


one intends to get all the drink into the mouth, but this does not always happen.


The plan is good but it can still fail.


91———Boys will be boys

People will act according to their nature, including some mischief.

This is sometimes used to describe irresponsible but not too seriously wrong

behavior by men. In other words, grown men will sometimes act like little boys.

92——-One bad apple can spoil the whole barrel

Do not associate with bad people. They may spoil you as a rotting apple

spoils the apples next to it in the barrel.

93———Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t

People are generally not trustworthy. It is therefore better to deal with a familiar

person or situation than an unknown one. That way you know what to watch out

for and you can protect yourself better.

94———-Nobody is perfect

Everyone has shortcomings. This is used as an excuse for a minor

Mistake that has been made.

95———–The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

People are never satisfied with what they have.

They always want what someone else has.

96———A man is only as old as he feels

A person’s energy level is more important than age.

97———-A man’s home is his castle

At home a man is like a king, completely free to do as he wishes.

98———-Clothes make the man

The way a man dresses will affect the way he sees himself and the way other people see him.

The implication is that if you want to succeed, dress for success.

99———-Two heads are better than one

Two people are more likely to succeed than one working or thinking alone.

It is better to consult than to act alone.

100———Beauty is only skin deep

One should admire a person, particularly a woman, for her deep, inner character and not simply

for her superficial beauty.

101———Many hands make light work

Cooperation makes a job much easier

102———-There is safety in numbers

Do not take large risks all by yourself.

Do not walk alone on a dangerous street at night.

103———Charity begins at home

One should be kind to close relatives before doing good

to the community in general.

104———There is no place like home

Home is the best place in the world.

The most relaxing and enjoyable place.

105———-Silence is consent

Do not stay silent when you see a problem or an injustice.

Speak out against it. Say, "Enough is enough." or people will think you do not mind the situation.

106———-What goes around comes around

What you do to others, especially if it is bad, will eventually be done to you.

As you seek your own success, do not treat other people badly. They may

take revenge and spoil your success.

107———-Honesty is the best policy

When one is tempted to cheat, this proverb serves as a reminder of the importance

of good character. Honesty brings trust and trust leads to success.

108——–If the shoe fits, wear it

If an accusation is true, accept the blame.

This saying can also mean, " if a suitable opportunity comes to you, take it!"

109———-You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink

Even when given an opportunity, some people will not use it.

In that case the blame is all on him.

110———-You made the bed, you lie in it

You created a certain situation so you are now responsible

to take the consequences.

111———-The pot calling the kettle black

Since the pot and the kettle are equally black from the cooking fire, the pot has not

right to criticize the kettle. This might be used if someone known to be a gossip criticizes

someone else for gossiping.

112———Don’t get mad, get even

When someone treats you badly, do not just get angry,

express your anger in action.

113———-Get a life

Do not be so unreasonably critical about tiny things.

Find something better to do with your time.

114———My country, right or wrong

I am absolutely loyal to my country whether or not I agree with

its policy in a certain area.

115———–There are two sides to everything

Never assume that all the blame for a conflict lies on one side,

especially if you have heard only one side of the story.

116——–Forgive and forget

Conflicts should be resolved and ended,

not left alone to cause years of regret, bitterness and pain.

117———–Business and pleasure don’t mix

When you work, work. When you play, play.

It is inefficient and therefore unwise to try to mix the two.

118———-Let a sleeping dog lie

Do not meddle in something that will cause you no trouble if you leave it alone.

If you wake up the "dog," it may bite you.

119———–No man can serve two masters

Divided loyalty will break down sooner or later.

120———Make it short and sweet

Speak briefly and to the point.

We don’t have time for the details


121———What will be will be

Some things cannot be changed or avoided.

122——–A friend in need is a friend indeed

My true friend is the one who show loyalty to me by helping me when I am in need.

123——–People who live in glass house should not throw stones

Do not attact anyone if you have no way to defend yourself

when they attact you in the same way.

124——–Opposites attract

As positive and negative magnets attract each other, so people of very different types

attract each other. For example, a quiet woman marries a very outgoing man. These

differences have a mixed effect on the couple, partly making them interested in each other

but also leading to miscommunication and conflict.

125———The early bird catches the worm

Punctuality is important. If you want to succeed, arrive early, like the bird that hunts worms

at dawn before they go into hiding for the day.

126——–Blood is thicker than water

Blood relationship is stronger than voluntarily chosen friendship.

Brothers will stick up for each other against their own friends if they have to.

This proverb is not quoted much anymore because kinship is not as highly valued as it used to be.


127——–You can’t teach an old dog new tricks

Once habits are learned, it is very hard to change them.

128——–To err is human

It is normal for humans to make mistakes and it is godly (or God-like) to forgive them.

129——–Haste makes waste

Through acting quickly is generally a good thing, acting too quickly may cause troulbe.

This proverb is used when someone has done a job carelessly and wrongly. For example,

a carpenter in a hurry may cut a board too short and have to throw it away.

130——–Make hay while the sun shines

If you do not seize the opportunity, rain may come and spoil the hay before you get into the barn.

131——–If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen

Withdraw from an activity if you don’t like the conflict and criticism it

brings. Let other people do it without you.

132———-Everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time

This is to tell us that we are all equal.

133——–Life is a pie

It’s dished out in large and small pieces and when’s gone, it’s gone.

If we ask for more than our share, we’re just begging to be disappointed.

134——–Making every minute count

Doing something productive all the time,

not letting any time "slip away."

135——–A pen is mightier than the sword

A conflict maybe resolved more deeply and effectively by writing the

truth than by resorting to violence.

136——–A new broom sweeps clean

A new person in power will change many things and improve the situation. change is better than leaving things as they are.

137——–Tomorrow is another day (or, Tomorrow is a new day.)

No matter how bad things are right now, a person may hope for better

prospects in the morning. New opportunities will come.

138——–Opportunity only knocks once

Opportunity is like an unexpected stranger passing by. It knocks on someone’s door.

If the person fails to answer the door, opportunity goes away and knocks on someone else’s door. It does not return to the same person.

139———Business is business

Do business with strangers as if they were brothers and with brothers as if they were strangers.

140——–History repeats itself

There are patterns in history. Nations rise and fall for similar reasons.

Nations do not change their ways or learn from the mistakes of others. They repeat them.

141——–People are people

Their human nature is predictable.

They respond to stimulus and incentives.

142——–Keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer

A man without enemy is a man without quality.

Think not? Even Jesus Christ had many, many enemies.

143——–Better late than never

Though being on time is better than being late, doing something late is

better than giving up or doing nothing.

144——–Punish one, teach a hundred

People problems sometimes must be dealt with harshly.

When you make an example of someone, make sure that everyone

knows what the lesson is.

145——–Attitude is everything

A pessimist sees a glass half-empty,

An optimist sees it half-full.

146——–Like father, like son

A son will be like his father. This may be quoted whenever the son has

done something that reminds people of the father. Whether it is good or bad.

147——–When the cat’s away the mice will play

People will take advantage of a situation if they can.

Employees will get lazy if the supervisor is not keeping an eye on them. A teenage son or daughter might hold a wild party at home during a weekend when the parents have gone out of town.

148——–Praise when praise is due (sometimes even when it isn’t)

Do not criticise beyond necessity and seldom in public.

And always precede criticism with a few words of praise.

149——–Turnabout is fair play

If a person is taking advantage of someone else, the situation may change. The one on top may end up on the bottom. Then the one who has turned the tables will say, "I am only doing to you what you did to me.

150——–Here today, gone tomorrow

Things may change quickly. This is said as a criticism of a person

who changes quickly for no good reason. It may also be said of a

thing or situation which does not last. Change is not good when it

indicates unreliability.

151——–Will wonders never cease?

Said when someone has done something untypical of him or her and

much better than was expected. It may also be used of a technological

breakthrough.

152——–Do not stand out, fit in

Make no long-term, close friendships with any colleague.,

but be cordial to all.

153——–There is no morality in struggles for power

In struggles for power, your judgements should be based entirely on self-interest

and finding as direct and economical a route to your goal as possible.

154——–Natural law is blind

Just like water, cleaness and refreshes without any distinction, and

without any judgement either.

155——–The more things change, the more they stay the same

Said when an apparent change is only superficial.

156——–Happiness is a choice and misery is optional

The way we choose to see the world creates the world we see.

157——–The leopard cannot change his sports

Some people are not willing or able to change their chartacter.

This is said when a notoriously bad person tries to change but fails

into the same mistake all over again.

158——–Man proposes, God disposes

Human beings make their plans but God determines whether they

succeed or not.

159——–A live dog is better than a dead lion

It may be better to run away like a scared dog with its tail between its

legs than to stand and fight to the death like a courageous lion.

160——–It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind

Since women are often considered more emotional and less

logical than men, and since emotions are more changeable than

reasons, women are allowed to change their minds.

161——–Spare the rod and spoil the child

An undisciplined child will turn out to be a rotten person.

Many parents think that any physical punishment of children is abusive,

while many others think that without it, children grow up to be morally retarded.

162——–Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me

A taunt used by people claiming that an insult did not affect them.

163——–The worm turns

Everything chnages. Do not expect situations or people to

stay the same for very long.

164——–You are what you eat

A nation’s diet can be more revealing than it’s art or literature.

165——–Marriages are made in heaven

God is the source of human love and the one who destines two individuals to

be married. This proverb is going out of fashion since it goes against individual

freedom.

166——–If you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours

If you do something good for me, I should do something good for you

167——–Office politics are secret and dirty and there is never an end to it

To survive, be patient–watch, listen and say little;

to win, be patient–survive, plan and then strike swiftly.

168——–Work smarter, not harder

Get others to do as much as they can for you.

169——–Time heals all wounds

The damage done by a conflict is like a wound that will

heal naturally over time if it is not re-injured.

170——–No news is good news

If a friend is travelling and one does not hear from him/her, one may

assume that everything is going well. As another proverb says,

Bad news travels fast.

171——–Time marches on

Time is marching to its own drumbeat.

It does not slow down or stop for anyone.

172——–Keeping up with Joneses

This means buying things that you see your neighbors buying.

That way you look like just as much a success as they do.

173——–A man may work from sun to sun, but woman’s work is never done

Men may have to work long days but they can go home to rest in the

evening. Women can never get away from what used to be called

"women’s work," such as cooking and cleaning.

174——–The sooner the better

A wish for quick action or quick change. Once a decision has been

made, there is no point in waiting to carry it out.

175——–A good captain goes down with his ship

The captain remains on board his ship even when all hope

to save it is lost.

176——–Every cloud has a silver lining

Even bad situations will contain something good if we look for it.

Clouds are considered symbols of undersirable things. The bright

edge of a dark clouds is like something good that can cheer us up.

177——–The exception proves the rule

Though we are making an exception and breaking the rule in this

one case, we do it only becasue the circumstances are so unusual.

178——–Shop till you drop

Shopping is a form of considering options. People think

this is fun so they keep doing it untill they are worn out.

179——–The devil can quote scripture

A quotation from an authoritative book or person cannot always be

trusted. The quote may be distorted or incorrectly applied.

180——–Hindsight is always 20/20

Looking back on the past, it is easy for anyone to see what should

have been done even though it was impossible for anyone to see

it at the time. ("20/20 vision" is an eye doctor’s term for eyes that see

perfectly.)

181——–The good die young

Life is not always fair. Some very fine people die at a young age

though it seems they were so good they deserved to live longer.

182——–Power corrupts

When people are put into positions of power, they gradually forget

what life is like for ordinary people. They become more likely to abuse

their power, perhaps without even realizing it.

183——–Half a loaf is better than no bread at all

Sometimes we will not be able to get all we want or hope for.

As such times of only partial success, we should look on bright side

and be glad for what we got.

184——–A house divided against itself cannot stand

Unity is the strength that preserves a family or a nation.

185——–Easy said than done

We promise according to our hope but

we perform according to our fear.

186——–A dog is a man’s best friend

Dogs are know for their loyalty. Their friendship is

more reliable than the friendship of people.

187——–Practice makes perfect

Effort brings improvement and success.

188——–Where there is a will, there’s a way

Any problem can be solved if one is determined enough.

189——–He who laughs last, laughs best

If a person does wrong to someone and laughs at him or her,

the victim will look for a way to get revenge. When revenge is taken,

the victim gets the last laugh, defeating the other person.

190——–It takes two to make a quarrel

Avoid a fight if you can. An insult does not become a

fight unless it is answered by an insult.

191——–Let bygones be bygones

Do not bring up an old problem.

Pretent it never happened.

192——–Two wrongs don’t make a right

If someone does a wrong to you, react with justice,

not by doing something vicious. (He did wrong to you,

but you do right in response.

193——–Crime does not pay

Though crime appears to have benefits, this is an illusion.

for example, shoplifting seems like an easy way to get things one wants,

but crime always puts the criminal in danger of punishment.

194——–So far so good

Said by or to someone who is carrying out a plan taking

one step at a time. Confidence increases with each step.

195——–Two is company and three is a crowd

This may be used when two people are talking and a

third, unwanted person approaches.

196——–Innocent untill proven guilty

In a court of law, the accused person is presumed innocent at

the start. The burden of proof always rests on the accusser,

not the accused. The jury will not convict the person unless the

proof is clear.

197——–The devil made me do it

I am not to blame for what I did. I could not help it. Some power

outside of me was forcing me to act in that way. This is playfully

used as an excuse by people who know they have done something

wrong but want to avoid the penalty.

198——–Home is where the heart is

Home is wherever ones loved ones are. The size or appearance

of a house does not make it a home or keep it from being a home.

199——–Time and tide wait for no man

When something’s time has come, it will happen and nothing can

stop it. It is like an ocean tide coming in to the shore.

200——–Home, sweet home

This phrase reminds people of the ideal home–

It should be a place of warmth, love and joy.



2006年05月28日

 

LAST autumn my parents were studying in Canada, and brought me over with them.

It was soon my birthday. Then came Halloween (万圣节前夕). Once I asked Mum why there was Halloween. She told me a lot about ghosts (鬼). I couldn’t remember it all. I just remember that many children put on interesting clothes on that day. They go from door to door and ask for sweets (糖果).

Sheng An in Canada last winter

"Sweets are like good words for the dead (死去的)," Mum told me. "The more the better. They can help the dead go to a better place."

One day before Halloween, Mum bought me witches’ (女巫的) clothes. They were black, with a hat.

Dressing up

The next day, at about 6:30 pm, I went out with my parents.

It was dark. Many people got together around a house. They were asking for sweets. Lots of children were dressed in different clothes.

I pushed in and reached out my hand. I got some.

"Wow! There’s nothing hard about this," I thought.

I was so happy when I looked at the colourful sweets. But there were so few.

Some kids had left the house and started to ask for sweets door to door.

I decided to go with them. I wanted more.

I was a little afraid at first. But the people at each house were very kind. They gave me lots of sweets.

After some time I had enough. I started to look around to see what Canadians do at Halloween.

The houses were so different! Some were made very scary (可怕的). There were life-like skeletons (骷髅) on the fences. There were graves (坟墓) in the gardens. Bat-like (象蝙蝠的) clothes flew in the wind. But some weren’t so scary.

When I went home that day, I found out my sweets could fill a whole big box!

"The sweets could last through the year!" I thought, and they did.

2006年05月24日
 

John Smith, do you take this woman, Mary White ,to be your lawful wedded wife, to live together in the estate of matrimony!Will you love her honor her ,comfort her and keep her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others ,be true to her as long as your both shall live?
约翰 史密斯,你愿意娶Mary White 为合法的妻子共同过婚姻生活吗?你愿意爱她,尊重她,安抚她,守护她,不论她健康或有病,在你们的有生之年不另作他想,忠诚对待她吗?

THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY OF
_____ AND _____

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THE VOWS

We are gathered here this ____ to unite this man ____ and this woman _____ in the bonds of holy matrimony which is an honorable estate. Into this, these two now come to be joined.

If anyone present can show just and legal cause why they may not be joined, let them speak now or forever hold their peace.

Who gives this woman to this man? ________

(MAN)_______, will you have this woman as your lawful wedded wife, to live together in the estate of matrimony? Will you love her, honor her, comfort her, and keep her in sickness and in health; forsaking all others, be true to her as long as you both shall live? (I will).

(WOMAN)_______, will you have this man as your lawful wedded husband, to live together in the estate of matrimony? Will you love him, honor him, comfort him, and keep him in sickness and in health; forsaking all others, be true to him as long as you both shall live? (I will).


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THE RING

BEHOLD the symbol of wedlock. The perfect circle of love, the unbroken union of this man and this woman united here today. May you both remain faithful to this symbol of true love.

Please join hands and repeat after me (man first, while placing ring on proper fingers).

I,_______, take _____ as my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.

I,_______, take _____ as my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.


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For as much as ______ and ______ have consented together in wedlock, and have witnessed the same before this company of friends and family, and have given and pledged their promises to each other, and have declared the same by giving and receiving a ring, and by joining hands.

By the authority vested in me by the State of New Hampshire,

I pronounce this couple to be husband and wife.

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This Ceremony was performed on______, 19___

by

Terry M. Clark, Justice of the Peace

105 Sugar Hill Rd., East Swanzey, N.H. 03446

(603) 352-3179

 

January
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February
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22 Washington’s Birthday
25 Ash Wednesday

March
8 International Women’s Day(国际妇女节)
17 St. Patrick’s Day

April
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Arbor Day (植树节)
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22 Secretaries Day
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6 Nurses’Day
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4 Independence Day (美国独立日)

August
2 Friendship Day

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7 Labor Day
Grandparents Day
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11 National Children’s Day
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17 Sweetest Day
24 United Nations Day
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