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about baby’s crying

Posted by neverused on Jan 23, 2006 in 和孩子一起成长

Baby’s crying is by no means a kind of noise to those parents the moment they return home from their offices, exhausted, as many people think, moreover, the baby’s crying indeed is their distinctive way to convey some certain meanings to the parents, which has been supported by many academic researches on infant linguistic communications, but unfortunately this way of communication is not commonly understood by most people at the first stage, unless they had such similar experience of raising a baby or got well trained of specialist on pre-school education, because babies do share little backgrounds with us adult at all.

 

Crying is kids’ language, even though in the low level of communication, by which they express their sorrows or wants to us. Let’s get down to fundamental and agree that infants after all, are human race and they do have their feelings and sentiments, like their elders, and it is far from easy for us to master this very language overnight, especially for those who just upgrade themselves to parents. For new parents, the only way to overcome it- so at least it seems to me- is to observe their baby’s behavior everyday full of affection, and only by which can they accumulate the experience on how to raise a baby not only in good health but also in good personality. Unlike new who always feel at a loss of what to do when their little darling kids burst out crying, parents with experience, for instance with a boy in twelve months old, they will distinguish almost at a glance from his various, knowing whether he is in hunger, he wants to go to bed, or even he feel very uncomfortable in the gesture holding him in arms. Because for the past days and nights, they have been engaged in retrieving data from what he did by trial and error, and speculated the significance impressed by every crying. It is the response for crying that help parents  to build up good relationship, say, love with their cute kid.

 
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匆匆随笔-儿子与吃饭座椅

Posted by neverused on Jan 15, 2006 in 和孩子一起成长

今天喂奶的时候发现,儿子的两颗下牙差不多要长齐了,匆忙之中,竟然忘记了第二颗牙齿从何时破土而出,现在细想起来,总觉得第二颗牙齿从来就好端端的长在那里,总是无法原谅自己做父亲的粗心。

 

昨天去宜家给儿子买了一个吃饭的椅子,上面有个托盘,这样可以在儿子吃饭喝水的时候能节余一个人的劳力,况且这个椅子也是几个保健医生极力推荐的,认为宜家的座椅设计非常适合这个年龄段小儿脊柱的发育,几个妈妈在聊天的时候也谈及这个座椅的好处,于是老婆老早就嚷嚷去让买一个,因为时间的缘故还特意托了她的表姐,结果表姐在去买的时候竟逢宜家10年店庆商品大打折扣,她去的那天排队交款的人是people mountain, people sea, 排起来像条条long dragon, 结果表姐在匆匆之际竟然自己的座椅还漏买了一个托盘,然后再委托我买的时候顺便给他们带一个回来。一大早,我就打车去了马甸,趁着宜家还刚刚开门,人很少的时候,给他托回来一个塑料的吃饭座椅。

 

儿子很是激动,在我们两个研究如何安装的时候已经停了他手中的活(无非是拉着窗帘,看自己的小画书,或者玩自己的玩具),抛弃了手中物事,激动地爬向这个小椅子。把他放进椅子里,这个小子很兴奋地坐在里面,两只脚来回交替地摇动着,双手在大托盘里不停地拍着,嘴里乌里哇啦说着,儿子一直在玩这个新鲜玩意,一会动动安全绳,一会拍拍托盘,忙地满头大汗。两个小时后,儿子突然哼哼唧唧起来(其实后来才意识到小子想撒尿),我以为他开始厌倦了这个椅子,就把他从椅子上抱出来,但这个小子却死活不走,双手开始抓着椅子的边框,脑袋钻到座位里面,开始仔细研究那两个安全绳,看样子就像是老鼠在打洞一样,很是专注。

下午老婆开始给儿子喂水,儿子一边啃着磨牙梆,一边看着妈妈的脸, 我想还是这个椅子非常使用,要知道,以前喂水的时候,老婆总是把儿子拦在怀里,儿子总是一会扭来扭去的,非常不情愿配合。有了椅子以后,不禁母子之间有了目光上的easy contact 而且,我还惊奇的发现,儿子竟然不时地把自己的磨牙梆喂给妈妈吃!呵呵,自从这个小椅子进驻我家以来,昨天整整一个上午,儿子没有像往常那样睡觉,下午也只是短短的睡了不到20分钟,儿子很高兴,因为他又有了一个新的大玩具;爸爸妈妈也很高兴,因为以后再给他喂水喂饭的时候不仅更方便,而且更容易享受到亲情的温暖。

 
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2006年1月6日儿子练习叫妈妈!

Posted by neverused on Jan 7, 2006 in 和孩子一起成长

200616,李明谦小朋友开始有规律地学习叫妈妈,这与一个月以前的情况大不一样,那天(很遗憾,记录日期的本子不知道扔到哪里去了)上午他无意识地叫了声妈妈,下午的时候在自己小床边上站着玩的时候叫了一声爸爸,同一天的时间里同时叫了爸爸妈妈,当时把我们激动的够呛。但是,实际上这些都是无意识的,也是无法重复的,但也着实让我们感到了欣慰。

在后来的日子里,李明谦也开始叫妈妈,但是这往往是他向我们表达抗议的语言,在我们让他做自己不愿意做的事情的时候,例如喂药、把尿、换尿布不让他乱动的时候,“妈妈”成了他表达自己不满的符号,下意识地自己受了什么委屈都要找妈妈去哭诉,看来这是人最自然的事情。

可是,今天的不同,从200616开始,儿子开始有意识地叫妈妈,在喊人的时候,没有丝毫的痛哭,而且叫妈妈的声调多种多样,字节之间的停顿也不相同,声调和字节都拿捏地不时特别到位,但是,看得出他在努力学习我们的语言,与我来看,努力练习如何叫妈妈只是一个开始而已,之后就是爸爸,然后就开始逐步探索我们广袤的语言空间。

根据科学研究,婴儿发音的时候叫爸爸比叫妈妈容易,发B的音节要比M更容易。那么婴儿为什么总是先叫妈妈呢?因为在婴儿的成长过程中,特别是早期,妈妈往往要付出更多的劳动,婴儿与妈妈相处的时间要远远大于和父亲的时间,其间妈妈要照顾婴儿的吃喝拉撒睡,头痛脑热的也是妈妈来操心的多,因此,婴儿开始叫妈妈是理所应当的事情。荣誉应该首先归功于婴儿的妈妈!

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